Tuesday, April 21, 2009

Dear African Women: Interracial Dating

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:) Pardon the pauses!

Wordsmith
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25 comments:

  1. My question is where is this dutch dude been living? Under a rock? That is so petty!
    I cannot date a white dude because i don't want anyone to kill me in my sleep because of life insurance money. or worry about his ADD all the time. Plus the cultural difference is so huge! This is my opinion sha.

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  2. seriously, dating people not of your own species, i mean race, is a lot of work cs u have to start educating them on ur behavior or mere slangs. i think to be in love is possible only when both parties share a similar sense of humor and thinking. interracial dating is encouraged but should be carefully thought of until both partners are down to accept whatever issues or adjustments that come with it.

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  3. u r right..if he truly loves her, he'll overlook those trivial details..

    i've never dated a non-nigerian so i dont have hands-on experience but i guess if both parties totally understand the cultural differences, like u said, and r willing to work through them, there shudnt be a problem..

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  4. I think having a base of things in common is a very important part to any relationship. what do i have in common with Caucasian guys? i dont even understand the kind of music they like, and when they crack jokes, i have to think of an actually funny joke that I heard in the past that makes me laff so i dont appear rude. Na, I salute people who are in in interracial relationships for the right reasons...altho i must to confess that these days, it gets to me when i see a black guy with a white girl...arg!

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  5. Hey, u sound really nice. I see u guys r really getting into audio posting, but i think you should turn up the volume next time while recording.

    I think issues such as hair and make up are pretty trival. She should let him see her without all the film trick and let him decide.

    Interracial dating will always have it's many problems, but as long as the intentions are pure, i think things would eventually work themselves out!

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  6. My first answer is always, love is hard to find and those who are lucky enough, oughta embrace it and be happy.

    If I think about it, I am not so sure, I really want a partner who shares my passions, culture and I wanna look at him and love myself more, lay in bed and look at his hue and smile because it is familiar yet different.

    I can look at white boys and admit they look good but I have never been seriously attracted to one.

    I want a partner who understands the idiosyncrasies of Nigerian English and/or Nigerian people....

    With all that said, I will never let my own ideal colour how I look at other people's love, from the outside it sure always look beautful.

    Inter-racial has problems like intra-racial ones do but I guess if your love is strong, you would have to be more patient and answer questions that may be vexing.

    I hope they work it out.

    L

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  7. Good job wordsmith.

    As for inter-racial dating....whatever rocks ur boat. For me- it's just not for me. No biggie!

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  8. Way to go WordSmith!! I'm with you. The issue of the make-up stains is definitely not the issue. Every man will complain about that. You go gal!

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  9. Loving the topics, keep em coming!
    I've dated a white guy before.
    The race thing really wasn't an issue. People made comments here and there, and gave us the look but nothing serious...
    Great blog guys...

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  10. I think i am the first to comment...
    Does it mean that guys r running away from this blog? Am i odd for stalking this blog? Lol...
    I am using a mobile so i hav not listened to ur audio post...eh wordsmith...
    Now i have not dated a caucasian... That is a bit hard to do while u are in gidi..
    I feel a bit odd when i see inter racial couples...maybe cos of my neighbor when we were kids...a sailor who married a caucasian...they were always seeing issues..esp. Cultural differences from different views..enuf said
    Love is hard to find...if u find it, grab and hold onto it with both hands. Hoo haaa!

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  11. I was going to comment on this, but my comment got too long and I turned it into a post on my blog. Suffice to say I support interracial relationships but only when both parties approach each other on equal ground. All relationships have their issues.

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  12. I like this Audio post thingy...

    Many years ago, I would have frowned if I see an interracial couple but not anymore. I used to think that it is only prostitutes who marry white men. Thank God for enlightenment.

    Recently, I walked into the home of this black women married to a white man. I always felt she must have met him in a club or something. But on getting to know her, I learnt that they met via work, they just clicked and hence got married. Their house is truly a home filled with beautiful, intelligent children.

    We as human beings are more than our colour. A woman might be searching for a sensitive, understanding and loving guy. Such a man may just be from another race.

    In this day and age, we are more exposed to people of other races, more than ever before. In my office, the black to white ratio is like 2:1.

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  13. I am an advocate of interracial relationships. I believe its like dating a blonde or a red-haired woman. Nothing wrong with preference. I dated caucasians for 8 years and tried being with a fellow Nigerian, it ended as soon as it started.

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  14. inter-racial dating... I don't think it matter though. whatever makes one happy..

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  15. You 2cents Was Highly Commendable Cos Your Opinion Sounded Roundly Considerate On All Racial Fronts.Hey,I Never Minded The "Pardon The Pauses",I Rather Liked It Coz It Ensured You Were Natural And Not Scooping From Some Teleprompter Hence "Permit The Pauses" Would Suffice Except Of Cos For Some Insufferable Listeners.Whomever You Date Doesnt Matter As Long As Love Is The Basic Interest And Both Parties Are Tolerant.

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  16. this is a very broad topic that needs careful attention. however, i feel every individual has the right to choice. choice matters.

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  17. So happens that all I have dated is white men. Actually, it doesn't just happen. I do have a preference for White guys. It's a preference that my parents noted from when I was very young. I'm African and have encountered no problems at all dating white.

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  18. my first major real life crush(outside the tv stars) was a Russian, i mopped after him everywhere he went till my holiday was over.

    i think I'm open to interracial dating...or not.
    i mean, love asks for no direction so if it takes u that way then enjoy.

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  19. Good one there!!! i love the post and the comments.

    I am not african but i have always been fascinated by your culture. i remember when i was young i cut out this picture of an african woman from a magazine. ive always loved african women...especially your color. i'd have to admit i envy your color. *wink*

    On interracial dating...hmmm...cultures vary and it really does get in between relationships. but LOVE should be the arbiter. LOVE decides.

    I salute you, african women!!!! you make this world beautiful!!! :-)

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  20. Inter-racial relationship...there is nothing like da o! The true is that love is real and when you find it (accept it) Love don't have any colour, race, size, shape etc!!

    I dated a white girl, she never gave me wahala I can't say otherwise for dude...infact I remembered sharing a house with three nija girls they made my life hell!

    whenever you find LOVE welcome love and appreciate love...

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  21. i think the guy is just trying to adjust...if he really loves her he'll soon make those adjustments and realise its the bond they share thts more important.tht being said....e go hard o for me to date a white guy o cos i think im racist.lol.im blach btw.i think we're just better. sorry!lol.
    dnt mind me o im just kidding but seriously, it has to be one white guy im in sync with o,cos in no go understand some of my razzness.just like i wont understand some of his "unsharp dodoyo behaviours" lol.

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  22. I don't see how two cultures, if they were technically raised in yet another (but the same) country could be all that different - to the point that it takes A LOT of explaining for them to understand. Can people explain this to me? I'm of Chinese descent, born and raised in Canada. I probably have more things in common with the Indian kid who grew up next door to me than any guy from China, unless he received a foreign education from Grade 7. In any case, if one really has to marry someone who understands another completely, then I would have to marry a Hong Kong Canadian male who grew up in a certain part of Toronto and who went to certain high schools (a small list!) and universities (again, a small list).

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  23. /////I think having a base of things in common is a very important part to any relationship. what do i have in common with Caucasian guys? i dont even understand the kind of music they like, and when they crack jokes, i have to think of an actually funny joke that I heard in the past that makes me laff so i dont appear rude. Na, I salute people who are in in interracial relationships for the right reasons...altho i must to confess that these days, it gets to me when i see a black guy with a white girl...arg!/////

    EXACTLY.lolol

    When i was much younger, i would always say hey, i want to marry An American with long hair. i realised later that i wouldnt want to marry a Non-Nigerian, because we are worlds apart, in culture, way of life basically.

    It would be a different issue if i grew up there,just like CynthiaC above me is saying.

    I tried just going on a date with an Indian, it was the most difficult thing i ever did..never again.

    Love is a choice afterall.

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  24. I probably have more things in common with the Indian kid who grew up next door to me.

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  25. I would even go further to read a review on a inter racial dating site to make sure you aren't getting ripped off.

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