tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-585025841277140679.post2488653113450195735..comments2023-10-26T05:16:14.056-07:00Comments on The African Women: Bills Bills Bills 2wordsmithhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00726424441067517088noreply@blogger.comBlogger49125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-585025841277140679.post-759867659149279542009-05-27T10:08:57.515-07:002009-05-27T10:08:57.515-07:00She'll have to own up someday and the sooner the b...She'll have to own up someday and the sooner the better... inbtw what has she been doing with the rent money?felixhttp://www.felixkepa.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-585025841277140679.post-69457462881126848502009-05-18T06:22:00.000-07:002009-05-18T06:22:00.000-07:00A BIG SCREAM to the AfriCAN Women out there,
WOW!!...A BIG SCREAM to the AfriCAN Women out there,<br />WOW!!!!!!<br />My first time here and what a wonderful site. How come I am just getting to know of this site hehn, Afrobabe, Temite and co?<br />Anyway, I will be a regular and I better blogroll asap.<br /><br />Now, with regards the lady in question, personally, I thought she is a wise so and so. It explains why she is top in her profession. Let her keep the ongoing arrangement going. With time, all will be revealed and if the man in her life is real, he will appreciate her the more.<br />I will not call it lying, I will say she is applying wisdom.<br />As for the bills, the man in the house ought to be responsible for the bills, when the woman sees that he needs help, then she can come in. <br />My tip again is that Women should not drive home the point that it is a Man's duty, a responsible man already knows.<br />Also, sorry if I come across as being ...so and so...but boy friend and girl friend stuff is different from marriage oh....I know. I should know...in fact I am in the Know after so many years o....so please those giving tips, this is no Mills and Boom o...sorry guys...(that has revealed my generation hasn't it)...lolllllAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-585025841277140679.post-43636972512734769882009-05-12T08:55:00.000-07:002009-05-12T08:55:00.000-07:00I find the lies to her husband hard to understand....I find the lies to her husband hard to understand. Why lie when lying means you are accepting a huge character flaw (immaturity). That being said and moving forward....<br />She has lied already and I think she will be better off selling off the property, investing the money and nursing a guilty conscience till they are old and graying...sleekiesthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06389806681377736257noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-585025841277140679.post-74188710187140117932009-05-11T19:38:00.000-07:002009-05-11T19:38:00.000-07:00The man should pay the bulk of the bills - not bec...The man should pay the bulk of the bills - not because I think women should not be made to pay the bills, but because men find fulfillment in being able to cater for their family (wife, children, old parents, etc). If a woman is paying the bulk of the bills, the man might feel inadequate. That being said, your friend shouldn't have lied to her hubby. When a man is the right man, things will fall into place - as long as they're both right for each other. A mature man shouldn't be intimidated by his woman's success. And the woman in turn shouldn't taunt him with it. They're one, right? Understanding is key.Vera Ezimorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06387648478708776748noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-585025841277140679.post-73957820421788420612009-05-11T10:05:00.000-07:002009-05-11T10:05:00.000-07:00Think about it, have you ever had ANY situation in...Think about it, have you ever had ANY situation in your life that you shared anything 50-50?<br /><br />When you start looking for 50/50 in your marriage or relationship, you are looking for unhappiness. Period.<br /><br />50-50 is in your imagination. It just don't happen! I know. I am married.<br /><br />Every relationship is like that between the pigeon who shits on a statue. On some days you are the statue, some days you are the pigeon.<br /><br />Accept that and you will have eternal happiness! LOL!N.I.M.M.Ohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04495100036040996719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-585025841277140679.post-72809749368706343722009-05-11T09:58:00.000-07:002009-05-11T09:58:00.000-07:00Naked Soul got it right!
When (not IF) he finds o...Naked Soul got it right!<br /><br />When (not IF) he finds out he will most likely move out of the house and wonder if the children are even his. <br /><br />She can arrange a Realtor or Agent from out of town to sell the house and she advise them to buy it as occupiers. Whatever he has paid as rent so far, she can accept as down-payment (without letting on)and make up the balance from their savings or she 'pays' it and make it look like a 50-50 contribution. The sooner the better.<br /><br />I think she did right but sometimes shit happens.N.I.M.M.Ohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04495100036040996719noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-585025841277140679.post-80315373816356858952009-05-11T09:40:00.000-07:002009-05-11T09:40:00.000-07:00@tobenna- and why cant the husband cook sometimes?...@tobenna- and why cant the husband cook sometimes?? which one be minimal in this ooo??<br /><br />your wife will be pregnant one day n cooking might be the last thing on her mind so start practicing. for realalotedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17293074684237435820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-585025841277140679.post-53893415874946982222009-05-11T04:55:00.000-07:002009-05-11T04:55:00.000-07:00I will find it very difficult to forgive and forge...I will find it very difficult to forgive and forget if my wife does that to me.<br />Better she didnt mention it at all than lie about it.<br />That said, how to remedy the situation?<br />Sell the house and tell the truth.<br />If he loves you, he will forgive and then maybe in 5years time, forget.<br /><br />My take on BILLS, BILLS, BILLS?<br />Husband does the CAPEX<br />Wife does the OPEX<br />Husband contributes minimally to housechores - like, take out the trash, jist with wife while she cooks, help hang clothes to dry after she launders, etc.tobennahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16019398627142150694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-585025841277140679.post-20274586301075049682009-05-10T22:10:00.000-07:002009-05-10T22:10:00.000-07:00I understand where the babe is coming from...for m...I understand where the babe is coming from...for most men, their manhood can often be defined by their ability to provide...and their ego's bruise easily...<br />At the same time, I see a marriage as a partnership. I think both parties should provide. And the truth is, times may come when the woman has to bear the brunt of financially responsibilities...as long as she is not throwing it in the man's face, it really should not be a huge deal...well taken outside the context of the African mentality sha...<br /><br />PS: I just read Steve Harvey's "Act like a Lady, Think Like A Man"....great read for all the ladies out there!Nigerian Drama Queenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05571464276621601553noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-585025841277140679.post-63658843252669567932009-05-10T14:46:00.000-07:002009-05-10T14:46:00.000-07:00I say she should pray about it all...I say she should pray about it all...ShonaVixenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03745455482846320144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-585025841277140679.post-33698585486190762392009-05-10T10:59:00.000-07:002009-05-10T10:59:00.000-07:00omg are you kidding? I feel like when he finds out...omg are you kidding? I feel like when he finds out he's going to be really mad...Perhaps she should have told him sooner? Esp since they were getting married...Idk :S<br /><br />Meanwhile a woman should never have to play down her accomplishments...She should have been proud! <br /><br />I hope she figures everything out...xLoliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06622661980066724665noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-585025841277140679.post-89605354506178409202009-05-10T08:53:00.000-07:002009-05-10T08:53:00.000-07:00I really understand this babe, but she has just pu...I really understand this babe, but she has just put herself in trouble because the man WILL find out. Wahala will be bound to start.<br /><br />For your pole dancing, I dey behind you! :-)))<br /><br />Please check my blog:<br />http://menoosha.blogspot.comMenooshahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11906286218657719111noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-585025841277140679.post-86912075877565295552009-05-10T05:49:00.000-07:002009-05-10T05:49:00.000-07:00@ Pinkyandbrain: If it was a man there would be no...@ Pinkyandbrain: If it was a man there would be no cultural need for him to live down his accomplishments... so this would never have come up.wordsmithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00726424441067517088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-585025841277140679.post-19947049775367635262009-05-10T01:17:00.000-07:002009-05-10T01:17:00.000-07:00I wont judge her reasons for doing wat she did cos...I wont judge her reasons for doing wat she did cos i dont wat she had been through.<br /><br />Honestly me in my cowardly self would sell the house put it in a fixed deposit or something and pretend it never happened.<br /><br />That na serious gbese o!!<br />Not only did she not tell him but he is now paying rent??<br />lol I dread to think of his reaction.<br /><br />He is a man and you know men and their pride.Padoshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06126949432648499087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-585025841277140679.post-46527027111241054282009-05-09T20:47:00.000-07:002009-05-09T20:47:00.000-07:00In A Nutshell, If It Was The Guy That Did The '...In A Nutshell, If It Was The Guy That Did The 'Live Down Accomplishments' Stunt..Am Sure We'd Hear The Whole Epistle About Lies Not Suitable For Any Union & Men Been Douchebags As Usual From The Oestrogen Populace.<br /><br />The Shit Is Gonna Hit The Fan Sooner Than She Thinks & Since The Guy Apparently Is A Heaven Sent. She Better Starts Throwing Up The Lies ASAP If She Doesnt Want It Any Uglier.pinkyandbrainhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07205006545567994438noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-585025841277140679.post-57313360053325638662009-05-09T15:10:00.000-07:002009-05-09T15:10:00.000-07:00Her revealing the truth can ruing their marriage
...Her revealing the truth can ruing their marriage <br /><br />I suggest she never tells and moves<br /><br />Though she did a bad move from the start, wasn't a wise one in anyway.Chttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07867251625253327152noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-585025841277140679.post-52527646414272151172009-05-08T15:53:00.000-07:002009-05-08T15:53:00.000-07:00as for bills in marriage, it has to be 50/50 if we...as for bills in marriage, it has to be 50/50 if we both have good jobs. Or at least a decent percentage.Naked soulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14811000909731413868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-585025841277140679.post-73437678345431494232009-05-08T15:52:00.000-07:002009-05-08T15:52:00.000-07:00i really dont blame her for lying..... most Nigeri...i really dont blame her for lying..... most Nigerian men with the mentality wouldnt appreciate her having the house. I will do the same if i were in her shoes. There may be a way for her to make it right, maybe she could tell him that the landlord wants to sell the house, and it'd be better for them to buy it since they've been living there....<br />They say honesty is good in marriage but ive a feeling the guy wont appreciate her honesty...so a babe's gotta do what she has to doNaked soulhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14811000909731413868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-585025841277140679.post-48672400576505409472009-05-08T11:55:00.000-07:002009-05-08T11:55:00.000-07:00lol..I'm not lieing, that was a good move! She's l...lol..I'm not lieing, that was a good move! She's lucky cuz most powerful and ambitious women find it hard to be satisfied with men. I think it was ok because she just wanted him to play his role..Ass for pole dancing??...ok oh!<br /><br />x!bob-ijhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03689631539494817437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-585025841277140679.post-48986529624241309712009-05-08T11:11:00.000-07:002009-05-08T11:11:00.000-07:00wow. First of all, i can't believe it took me this...wow. First of all, i can't believe it took me this long to come and comment on here.<br /><br />Second of all,while i totally and completely understand the reason for her actions, relationships should not be built on a lie. Especially marriages. Especially w/ a situation like this where the truth is bound to come out. Its best she comes right out and tells the truth while apologizing for her lies. <br />If you're w/ someone who truly loves you,there is absolutely no need to down play(lie) about accomplishments*Diane*https://www.blogger.com/profile/04433687789745336132noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-585025841277140679.post-17652927693561491062009-05-08T05:46:00.000-07:002009-05-08T05:46:00.000-07:00down her accomplishments? Sounds like lies to me....down her accomplishments? Sounds like lies to me. I feel whomever i marry will be proud of my accomplishments and push me to do better. Then again, maybe i'm living in a 'koo-koo' world.Tigeresshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17004116586549466667noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-585025841277140679.post-60735958935802068852009-05-08T05:21:00.000-07:002009-05-08T05:21:00.000-07:00my dear, i don't agree with dis ur statement o...my dear, i don't agree with dis ur statement oh, 'But I think if we are leaving them with the brunt of the bills then we need to do something in turn'. haba now! daz so 1950s! if we r talking marriage here, we r talking partnership. everybody puts their weight on everything. i contribute 2 bills, u contribute to housechores. <br /><br />as 4 d babe lying 2 her man, well i gotta say now is d time to own up. if she leaves it, d worse it'd look. not to mention, dude might find out 4 himself & all hell will be let loose. & she don't want that, does she?Flourishing Floridahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13587385454888882192noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-585025841277140679.post-67279840406619841002009-05-08T04:30:00.000-07:002009-05-08T04:30:00.000-07:00Hmmmmm...I would say she should tell him the truth...Hmmmmm...I would say she should tell him the truth now and carefully explain to him why she did it ....It must be hard going around with such a huge burden on her chest ..wowjoiceehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16618958439283233753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-585025841277140679.post-17142252612599834352009-05-08T04:09:00.000-07:002009-05-08T04:09:00.000-07:00Well thats the gimmick most ladies play on guys..w...Well thats the gimmick most ladies play on guys..why live your life on some freakin lies you gonna have to keep a secret all your life..Really i dont know how it applies in the UK but i know certainly here in the US..it takes two to tango<br />In otherwords,everyone..both the male and female gotta have something to bring to the table or how does a man flex his whole muscles payin all those bills on mortgage,credit cards and loans on stuffs in the home and the woman sits idly there relishin her wealth alone..it doesnt work for me...<br /><br />Like they say "if your in rome,you act like the romans"..If for some reasons,i find myself in Nigeria prolly relocatin ..which i doubt..lol..then i might have to rethink the male ego thing and work my ass out but here in the US...It takes the two of us..SHikena!!!Trybeshttp://www.lumideefamilusi.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-585025841277140679.post-33483366795079792562009-05-08T02:38:00.000-07:002009-05-08T02:38:00.000-07:00STOP lying to the man, he wont find it funny when ...STOP lying to the man, he wont find it funny when he eventually finds out.<br /><br />I believe the man should pay the major bills. Men like to take charge of stuff, a man who cant provide 4 his family, will feel unfulfilled.<br /><br />In my home Hubby pays the major bills, and I pay 4 other stuff; laundry, waste mgt, and minor repairs that have to be done in the home.O'Deehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07678018050951152616noreply@blogger.com